Joshua SciarrinoLast name; “Sure-Reno”

The Sin of Passivity and Why Men Are Called To ProtectFiled Under: social skills

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Throughout my life, I grew up without my father. He was never present nor did I have a father-figure in my life either. Briefly for 2 years, my uncle took me under my wing and spent time with me but even that was rare and nothing solid.

God changed my life when I was 16 and for the past 5 years I’ve been learning how things should be done (I’m 21). I’ve seen many men (trying to learn from them, even in the minor situations) and too many times I’ve seen men do nothing.

For me, I watched how men would act to learn how they acted and glean the good stuff. For example, I would see someone yell at his wife and he’d do nothing. Then I watched how the wife would call the husband a ‘jerk’ or give him a mean glare. Obviously he did wrong, but he didn’t accept/realize it.

Other times, family issues would happen, yet the ‘father’ of the family would say nothing and let the issues remain. Over time, they have become destructive and spawned evil. I mean EVIL, I don’t mean wickedness, I’m talking about someone with the intention to harm is spawned from passivity.

I haven’t seen even one situation where being passive has been beneficial to someone. Not one. Most of the time, it involves a man doing nothing. Not speaking up. Not getting pissed off. Not punching someone in the face. Not being diplomatic. Not exercising his authority.

Now, there have been other times, it’s a women in leadership not acting but their issue has been fear. Fear of what others would think of her.  (from my experience). But this isn’t time for doubt. It’s time to act and stand up for love.

I’m not talking about someone stares at you and you pound their face in. I’m talking about how someone demeans, demoralizes, degrades, or speaks down to anyone you love in any way. I’m sure there are other issues men have been passive about but this one recurs, quiet often.

So, although I don’t encourage killing someone or beating someone’s face in. I do encourage defending others. Defending your friends, family, and loved ones. If you have to beat the shit out of someone, to protect them, by all means, do so. But, try the gentle way at first. Give the person grace. Warn them. But, when it’s passed a certain point (after you gave them grace…and warned them…) feel free to deliver what you’ve promised.

It’s called justice and love.  It’s justice because they are afflicting another and deserve to be punished, in the same manner. It’s love because your not doing it out of hate, your doing it out of love. You love your friends and family. Your not doing it to protect your ego, your protecting others. For someone to be so passive where they won’t act upon injustice, I think is showing that your not a protector and that you DONT love those who are being persecuted. Yes, vengeance is God’s but maybe your the vessel of protecting. Are you?