Joshua SciarrinoLast name; “Sure-Reno”

The Power of Silence, Why You Should Shut Your MouthFiled Under: social skills

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Many times people ask tough questions “Why did God allow this to happen to me?” This answer isn’t looking for a logic response (at least 90% of the time). Logic doesn’t satisfy our souls. If we are asking a deep question we need a deep response. Something more simply “I don’t know, It’s God’s will”. In many situations, the answer, from you, should be silence. 

Silence is powerful, it gives time to be introspective and meditate (think about something deeply…) about the situation. If someone else is involved, your presence can be more powerful than any words uttered. Shutting up and letting them talk can be more powerful than 1,000 lectures about their situation, no matter what you say, truth or error, presence is simply more powerful in difficult situations.

So, if your friend is going through a rough time, shut up and listen. If you have that ‘erie silence’ ENJOY IT! because it’s healing to the person! It might be uncomfortable but it’s the right thing to do in many situations. A few times I’ve had friends beg me to answer “why….this” (and I’ve asked on many occasions) and the best response, many of the times, was to let them vent, let them express themselves and just watch listen and acknowledge their frustration. Don’t just be 100% silent, acknowledge their pain. Grunt, say yes, just do something to acknowledge their pain when they make heart-felt points.

Outside of friend situations (or even strangers), what about you? What about your personal life? Have you ever tried to be quiet?

I’ve learned over the years that I’m an introvert. So when I’m in a crowd I’m quiet but with friends I disclose myself to them and share a lot. Sometimes I steam-roll the conversation and just take it all by storm. Sharing everything, with numerous details. I’m trying to shut up and allow time for others but sometimes I get caught up in the moment of my life and take too much control over a conversation. I talk more than ask questions.

There needs to be balance. Talk but be silent. In every area of life. I have no words to say……..weird…like I wrote a lot…then lots words to say. Eh. Tis life.